I was in love once.
Honestly, violently, dangerously in love.
It was everything they say love is, and more.
I don't regret it. On the contrary I am happy for it.
It was an experience.
I can only pray to find love like that again.
But as the saying goes,
An old lover can never be a friend.
I have no interest in being 'friends' with him.
Acquaintances sef, that na loooong thing.
I dont know how all of you people do it,
But I am not one to be friends with old lovers.
What exactly is the point?
What is the essence of the friendship biko?
I am having a seizure at the mere thought of it.
Yah, its that serious.
So imagine my shock when a good friend told me to call up
'said' lover and let him know how I felt about our relationship.
That it would be good for him to hear.
Biko what am I supposed to say?
"Oh hey, yah err...just wanted to let you know that even though I dont talk to you anymore, what we had was great"?
Really?
I dont know about that one o.
But I thought it was interesting.
What do you think?
Does an old lover need to know what you think about your relationship?
xxx Fabulo-la
P.S. Thanks for checking on me guys, Niceanon and Repressed One. Been studying for thr GREs. That exam wan scatter my brain I tell u!
Im reading your blogs, not commenting as much, but I am there. Just in case you were wondering :)
Sunday, January 31, 2010
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Hi, first commented (yay) I think it would take stages, u never know u may be talking to him as acquaintances soon maybe even friends... It will soon be likeca scar, only a reminder of a pain u no longer feel... Enjoyed this post! N gudluck with the GREs!
There's no need. He does not need to know. You can never be what you once were but be civil to each other and speak on need basis.
If you parted amicably...then maybe. If you at one point thought he/she was the "One". Friends/acquaintances isn't necessary. Let them stay in the memories. Good luck with your exams n stuff.
I don't see the sense of giving an ex feedback after a relationship....thinking of it just reminds me of the questionnaires we fill in my school after each course....ogini
Good luck with your exam
i dont think he needs to know anything abeg.lol.
Old lover blues...
Don't do it. :)
No need jare. It serves no purpose!
"On the contrary I am happy for it." So do you agree with "it's better to have loved and lost than not to have loved at all"?? Just asking :) lol.
Eh ya pele...good to know you're well otherwise. Good luck with the exam.
it serves no purpose o...not necessary...he should come tell you gan, mschewww - goodluck on your exams dear
Wetin? So the guy will start to feel extra special after the fact?
Its better to leave him where he belongs - your past.
Biko, What's that?
Abeg.
I don't practice friend"s after being Lover either.
It doesn't make sense to me.
Everybody find your square roots. No beef. If I see you, Hi......Bye....
Why should I tell you what I think?
What purpose will that serve?
A beautiful question (and or situation) once discoursed at length. http://rethots.wordpress.com/2007/11/26/26/
nope! no need 4 dat. it'll just b awkward.
I don't think so
Why bother, He does not need to know, but old flames sure make good friends.
Its makes no sense telling him. Wish you all the best dear.
err.. after the end of being lovers.. all man need to answer im papa name o... staying friends is a loooooooong thing...
Goodluck with the GRE!
hmmm
i don't think it's a bad idea
i think i might try that tho
there's a reason someone is an ex jo, friendship with an ex is usually a long tin.
its not all bad sha, guess it depends on how and why u broke up. i have an ex who still refers me to people for business - we are friends that way, no funny emotions attached.
all the best with GRE, you'll fly
I was here ...dnt make any phone calls o
i don't fink it's a bad idea for him to know esp if wot u guys had was something u still wish u had even if with someone else.
GOOD LUCK WIT THE EXAMS
hmmm, on love and such! it would really be random though to bring up such if you do not want to go back to the person. well i would definately no sa a word about it. lol goodluck on your GRE's~
Excellent piece. Let's talk...
It depends on reason for the breakup.
I once broke up with my boyfriend ...Now fiance....We didnt fight or nothing.....I just wanted to see what was out there..lol..and....the distance was a strain on the relationship.
Good luck with ur exams.
No need...
All the best in ur GRE preps...
Bone d guy; if u somehow run into him in the future n u guys get to talking, that's different. But to go outta yo way to call him (a HIM at that!), well, like other's've said na serious long ting. I know, i've experienced it.
Giv those examiners hell!
Hmm... I am friends with my ex. I think it IS important for pple to know you valued a relationship bt if it was ages ago and hommie has moved on, then it will be too random!
~x~
thats my style, as per friends with exes or romantic interests. but i also applaud your style. both work out as well,except when the two of you could make 'good friends' only. then id say keeping as a friend is beneficial than cutting all ties. Ehhh goodluck in GREs!!!
Love is a complicated thing. Good luck on your GREs!
*HISS* Wetin consign aeroplane with side mirror???
Don't you just love Love?
Nope! I wouldnt go out of my way. If we meet "and" our convo gets to that, fine. If not? NOPe!!! good luck with ur exams
Most of the comments i've read seem to come from immature minds....and what you express in your blog seems to stem from hurt...Having an ex as a friend is a plus provided you've gotten over what you guys had and are mature enough to handle the friendship.....where did you come up with the saying - "an old love can never be a friend" - come-on.....are you serious!!!.....Whats the essence of such a friendship?? FRIENDSHIP.
Good luck in your exams....and take life easy, it aint that hard.........
This post is so interesting, so also are the comments. Thanks for making my evening.. I have laughed so hard..
Vera too.. lol..
no, no need, because for the man, me at least, i will retain some physical itch to satisfy if she were still lolling around. who needs the drama?
Now is the time for a well deserved update on this blog, babe! :)
Receive inspiration in Jesus' holy name. Amen.
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